Sunrise on Avalon Bay, Catalina Island, CA

Sunrise on Avalon Bay, Catalina Island, CA

Saturday 14 May 2016

May 2016 We are back!!!!


May 1 2016 - We're back!

After much thought we decided to share our life in a more open profile again. Ray's always concerned being on disability and publishing a blog. A full page Vancouver Sun article on Facebooking while on a disability, the individual is just giving "them" all the details of our life in a blog, thus saving "them" investigation fees as we were doing it for them. He is doing absolutely nothing wrong, but "they" can arbitrarily stop the disability and then reinstate it just before going to court.  "They" will twist anything to fit the narrative. He's concerned that by writing about the things we see and have done could be taken out of context without me commenting all the time about how bad Ray's pain is.  Blog readers don't want to read about how many hours he just laid on the bed, lots of time with ice on his back, or taken a strong pain killer, because he couldn't do anything after we had an unexpectedly longer drive, or went for a longer walk to see the scenery. His pain is acute and chronic.  If he doesn't say anything about the pain, he's in pain. If he says something, then he's in  %^&* pain.  Even spending three days doing nothing but lazing around he's still in pain. We even switched the primary driver on the car insurance as Ray gets too sore driving in heavy traffic. We knew his back (degenerative disc disease with 3 spinal fusions of 5 vertebrae) is getting worse as both of his legs now give out at times, requiring a cane when it happens.  He's been putting off getting a handicapped decal for the car, the pain level now indicated it is time. His neurologist told him walking is his best exercise and to do as much as he can for as long as he can, as the eventuality is probably a wheelchair.  Ray's nerve test with the specialist when we got back from the states, pretty much confirmed everything we knew. In two years, Ray lost 50% nerve function in his right leg and 30% in his left leg at the ripe age of 59. He also suffers from depression from the pain, as do 85% of chronic pain sufferers.



3 comments:

  1. Hi RnD! Good to see you're back on the airwaves! Enjoyed our lunch together that fine sunny afternoon a couple of weeks ago. Sorry to hear about the passing of R's stepmom; sounds like she had the best of care and went peacefully. Best regards to both of you and toss a stick for Freya for us! Cheers, Derek and Laurel

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  2. Welcome home, sorry to hear about Betty and the fact that we missed you when we were in the area. Hope to catch up with you sometime this year!

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  3. Welcome back!! Sorry to hear the news about Betty, however glad that you were able to secure good, trustworthy home care for your dad.

    Let's try to connect again before we all leave the lower mainland, if not, maybe we'll manage to cross paths somewhere in the interior!

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